This test does not seek to diagnose anybody nor would it be responsible to attempt to do so. Never confront your abuser with your suspicions or present any online test in an attempt to change their behaviour. That would be unsafe.

This test is only an indicator as to whether or not you have experienced narcissistic abuse. It should not be used as a definitive answer as to whether or not you have suffered this toxic form of abuse. Please remember that some questions are related to poor mental and physical health. Answering over 5 to any of these questions alone, does not indicate narcissistic abuse however, it does form a large part of the picture. Often times victims do not realise what they are experiencing is abuse as denial and suppression is a common factor. Ultimately, I help you recover from or at least help you manage and mitigate symptoms where a mental health disorder is a challenge for you . It does not prevent me helping you. In addition, it can happen that, doctors and psychiatrists misdiagnose mental health disorders. Symptoms may rightly suggest, that there is one but, once narcissistic abuse is identified and managed by changing lifestyle, resolving cognitive dissonance and rewiring thinking, mental health symptoms often get resolved via my practice. I have seen it many times. Key indicators of narcissistic abuse are derived from the relationship questions. However, ultimately, you may never know for certain if this is in fact, narcissism or not. What is important is, you gain the support and understanding you need to survive and thrive. If you resonate highly with these questions then you are advised to book a discovery call with me. I am not a psychiatrist or a psychotherapist and I am not qualified to diagnose. I do not need to diagnose in order to help you heal. We do not focus on the abuser but on you, your recovery and your transformation. I do not need to diagnose in order to transmute negatives into positives and change your life for the better. Every single client I have supported since I began this work has found their symptoms and general sense of wellbeing improve greatly following working with me.

Please consider how much these questions resonate for you on a scale of 1-10 where 10 signifies that it is very true for you. Scoring 450 in total and above gives a high indication that you are experiencing or have experienced narcissistic abuse and if this is the case then I strongly suggest you getting support as soon as possible.

Scroll to the bottom of the page to see your final score. Pressing Submit emails your results to you. If you only insert your email address then your results will be anonymous but will still form part of my research. But if you feel happy to share your identifiable data then I will be more than happy to contact you by phone or email to discuss your circumstances and answer questions if you’d like that.

Narcissism Test

Are you struggling to focus?

Are you having difficulties with remembering things?

Do you find it difficult to recall memories?

Do you or have you suffered with persistent nightmares?

Do you find yourself zoning out and then coming back to reality not knowing where you went?

Do others try to have conversations with you then point out that you are not listening because they notice you weren’t paying attention?

Do you find it difficult to assert yourself?

Do you find it challenging to voice your opinion especially in group conversations?

Have you developed issues with speech that you never used to have perhaps a slight stutter or a sense of tripping over your words?

Have you lost your voice?

Have you lost a desire to sing or do you find it difficult to sing in tune when you used to enjoy singing and could hold a tune very well?

Do you find yourself unable to enjoy doing the things you used to do?

Do you find yourself unable to say yes to seeing friends and family without checking in with your partner?

Do you find yourself sleeping too much or too little or perhaps both at different times?

Do you find yourself getting anxious when you have to discuss your desires, wants or needs with your partner?

Do you find yourself arguing with your partner about the same things regularly?

Have you found that your self confidence has diminished?

Do you feel insecure about the way you look but you didn’t used to feel that way about yourself?

Do you find it difficult to form opinions on things or situations even important things?

Do you struggle to make decisions for yourself?

Do you mistrust your abilities?

Do you suffer from low self esteem ?

Do you suffer from looping negative thoughts?

Your score so far.. complete all questions & scroll to the bottom for final results

Do you suffer from imposing thoughts of needing to do this or that for others?

Do you struggle to love yourself?

Do you find it hard to take time for yourself?

Are you always supporting others?

Are you always putting others before yourself?

Are you having or have you suffered from panic attacks?

Have you been diagnosed with depression or do you suspect you have this?

Are you suffering from anxiety?

Have you been diagnosed with depression or do you suspect you have this?

Do you have thoughts of not being enough?

Do you lack self worth?

Have you sacrificed yourself or your happiness for your partner or anyone else?

Do you feel invalidated?

Have you begun to wonder if you are going mad?

Have you ever been rejected by a primary carer or partner?

Have you ever been abandoned by a primary carer or partner?

Have you been co-erced to do something you did not want to do?

Have you been feeling controlled or manipulated?

Have you experienced anyone telling you that you are delusional ?

Have you experienced feeling like you cannot trust people even family members or close friends?

Have you felt like you were in conversations with others which didn’t quite make sense almost as if they know something about you that is colouring the conversation?

Have you found others becoming inexplicably impatient with you or dismissive of you for no reason?

Have you had a sense of others lying to you or things just not quite adding up?

Have others been behaving in ways that are out of character for them but it seems like it is only directed at you?

Your score so far.. complete all questions & scroll to the bottom for final results

Does your partner put on an act when they are with others?

Have you found yourself being the butt of sarcastic jokes that feel passive aggressive rather than funny?

Have you experienced relationships that change like the wind? One day you are amazing and then the next day, you seem to inexplicably disappoint?

Have you had anyone making specific plans to meet up, then they stand you up but tell you that you remembered the details wrong and it’s all your fault or denying they ever made plans with you?

Is your partner/friend/family member controlling and obsessed with status, power and perfection?

Are you afraid of letting your partner/family/friends down?

Are you walking on egg shells at home due to your partner’s or family members mood swings?

Do you suspect your partner or family member has mental health issues?

Is your partner/family member/ friend judgemental of you and others?

Is your partner/family member/ friend a gossip?

Do your friends/family members or partner belittle you or speak for you in company?

Are you constantly being told what you think and who you are yet you do not identify with what judgement is made of you?

Do you feel like life is a hamster wheel or roundabout that you cannot get off?

Do you feel like a victim of circumstance?

Do you feel disempowered?

Do you struggle to assert boundaries?

Do family members/friends or partner disrespect your opinion like it does not matter?

Do you struggle to be heard?

Do you struggle to say no and mean it?

Do you find others changing your mind for you easily?

Your score so far.. complete all questions & scroll to the bottom for final results

Are you suffering from lethargy or inertia?

Are you drinking a lot/too much?

Are you smoking a lot/too much?

Are you taking drugs?

Do you cancel plans/appointments last minute because you just cannot face it?

Are you embarrassed by any attention you get?

Do you feel like you are not worth listening to?

Do you feel like you have nothing interesting to say?

Are you struggling with work?

Do you find self care challenging?

Do you avoid buying nice things for yourself?

Are you exhausting yourself looking after others?

Are you hoarding items in your house?

Are you experiencing any phobias or persistent irrational fears?

Are you experiencing any obsessive compulsive urges?

Are you over exercising? Are you exercising even when you are tired?

Are you working too hard and exhausting yourself out of fear of not doing enough?

Are you unable to work due to mental health issues?

Have you been physically abused?

Have you been forced or co-ersed to have sex against your will?

Have you witnessed your abuser hurt a pet or other animal?

Has your abuser claimed you hurt or injured them or your child when you have not?

Have you been pushed to the point of crazy and become the perpetrator of reactionary abuse?

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